1. Winning too much: The need to win at all costs and in all situations.
2. Adding too much value: The overwhelming desire to add our 2 cents to every discussion.
3. Passing judgment: The need to rate others and impose our standards on them.
4. Making destructive comments: The needless sarcasm and cutting remarks that we think make us witty.
5. Starting with NO, BUT, HOWEVER: The overuse of these negative qualifiers which secretly say to everyone that Iâ€™m right and youâ€™re wrong.
6. Telling the world how smart we are: The need to show people weâ€™re smarter than they think we are.
7. Speaking when angry: Using emotional volatility as a management tool.
8. Negativity, or â€œLet me explain why that wonâ€™t workâ€: The need to share our negative thoughts even when we werenâ€™t asked.
9. Withholding information: The refusal to share information in order to maintain an advantage over others.
10. Failing to give proper recognition: The inability to give praise and reward.
11. Claiming credit that that we donâ€™t deserve: The most annoying way to overestimate our contribution to any success.
12. Making excuses: The need to reposition our annoying behavior as a permanent fixture so people excuse us for it.
13. Clinging to the past: The need to deflect blame away from ourselves and onto events and people from our past; a subset of blaming everyone else.
14. Playing favorites: Failing to see that we are treating someone unfairly.
15. Refusing to express regret: The inability to take responsibility for our actions, admit weâ€™re wrong, or recognize how our actions affect others.
16. Not listening: The most passive-aggressive form of disrespect for colleagues.
17. Failing to express gratitude: The most basic form of bad manners.
18. Punishing the messenger: The misguided need to attack the innocent who are usually only trying to help us.
19. Passing the buck: The need to blame everyone but ourselves.
20. An excessive need to be â€œmeâ€: Exalting our faults as virtues simply because theyâ€™re who we are.
Source: Â© 2007 Marshall Goldsmith, What Got You Here Wonâ€™t Get You There, Page 40-41 Hyperion Books.